Sex education
That thing you do
They say it’s not the number of years you live; it’s the life in those years which matters. Wilt Chamberlain, for one,
seemed to know well how to pack it in! For this basketball hall-of-famer confessed, in his autobiography, “A View from Above”, to have had sex with approximately 20,000 women! A mathematical calculation indicates that if Wilt had sex with all those women in his lifetime, he must have slept with a different girl every alternate day for about fourteen years on the trot! What’s more, he never felt the need to visit a sex therapist for his heightened libido. Contrast that with the wrecked marriage of Tiger Woods, attributed to his alleged misdemeanours with about a dozen women, following which he checked into a sex rehab.
Sex works like a drug, some might suffer with it and some without. A Brit nymphomaniac (who claimed to have slept with over thousand men) once commented “it’s like dry skin; you know you shouldn’t scratch it, but once you do, it just feels so good.” But like all good things, excess is unwise.
Satyric appetites are known to be indulged by some to the point of addiction. With the Internet making all levels of sex education possible – easily accessible porn, subscription to adult magazines – and burgeoning strip joints, escort services, and massage parlours, in addition to good old prostitution, the three letter word is top recall in these times. For the rich and the famous, the pickings are even easier. Tiger Woods was only the latest in the list of celeb sexaholics that include Charlie Sheen, Jesse James, David Duchovny, Paris Hilton, Billy Bob Thornton et al. Interestingly, Billy Bob Thornton actually ended up sleeping with his sex therapist. So there.
Given the ubiquitous lethal mix of fame, money and sex (Tiger confessed: “I thought I was entitled”), one wonders if this intense drive to have sex indeed amounts to something similar to Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), or is it a façade for cheating? On the comparison to OCD, Dr Satya Prakash, Psychiatrist and Director, Mindcare Clinic, says, “OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) is a personality disorder whilst the so-called sexual ‘addictions’ or ‘compulsions’ are not. There isn't enough evidence to even refer to them as actual clinical entities. While obsessive-compulsive mechanisms may be relevant in some cases, certain states of depression or anxiety, or dissociative experiences can also be the cause. Overall, scientific studies indicate that out-of-control sexual behavior results from a variety of mechanisms.” One of such out-of-control case was experienced by Ayesha (name changed) who recalls, “Sid once hit his own head against the bed in anger, when I refused to have sex with him. But once he got more violent, I was too scared and didn’t feel like tormenting him further, so I had to give in. On another occasion, he slapped me, when I told him that making out in the car was not a good idea, but again he got his way and we were almost caught by the cops. His regular visits abroad (every month) and his urge to have sex or masturbate four to five times a day was not only driving me crazy, but his parents too. They were aware of the problem and he was taken for various therapy sessions to many psychiatrists. The irony is that he knows he’s wrong sometimes, but his urge is so strong that it completely clouds his decision making ability.”
In the case of public figures, sleeping with multiple partners
turns into cause célèbre for sex addiction, but in ordinary lives, sans the limelight, carnal obsession is tough to explain, especially to one’s significant other. “I had a couple for a client once who were married for 10 long years; a love marriage on that. The wife then got to know that her husband made pornographic films and uploaded their own sex clips on the Internet. In another instance there was this man with a fetish for props like vegetables and other stuff for the act,” says Nisha Khanna, Relationship Expert, at UTV Bindass in Emotional Atyachaar 2. So, is there need for rehabs for sex addicts in India, like there are in the West? Dr Satya Prakash says, “No. It is not an absolute requirement. A good counselor can help unlearn these behaviours along with some support from a close member such as a spouse or friend.” Nisha Khanna also agrees, “We try and counsel our clients and refocus their energy they have, rather than the one thing they miss the most.”
That men and women have different outlook on sex is now a hackneyed truth. Women do enjoy sex (even Stephen Fry knows that!), but more often than not, one woman’s means to emotional consummation is another man’s physiological prescription. Fear of social ignominy, and moral delusions may cause many to give indulgence a pathological veneer, but to those who find their routine disrupted by unbridled impulses, help is not far, with understanding friends, resourceful parents and experienced counselors. You might want to take that first step.
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That thing you do
They say it’s not the number of years you live; it’s the life in those years which matters. Wilt Chamberlain, for one,
seemed to know well how to pack it in! For this basketball hall-of-famer confessed, in his autobiography, “A View from Above”, to have had sex with approximately 20,000 women! A mathematical calculation indicates that if Wilt had sex with all those women in his lifetime, he must have slept with a different girl every alternate day for about fourteen years on the trot! What’s more, he never felt the need to visit a sex therapist for his heightened libido. Contrast that with the wrecked marriage of Tiger Woods, attributed to his alleged misdemeanours with about a dozen women, following which he checked into a sex rehab.Sex works like a drug, some might suffer with it and some without. A Brit nymphomaniac (who claimed to have slept with over thousand men) once commented “it’s like dry skin; you know you shouldn’t scratch it, but once you do, it just feels so good.” But like all good things, excess is unwise.
Satyric appetites are known to be indulged by some to the point of addiction. With the Internet making all levels of sex education possible – easily accessible porn, subscription to adult magazines – and burgeoning strip joints, escort services, and massage parlours, in addition to good old prostitution, the three letter word is top recall in these times. For the rich and the famous, the pickings are even easier. Tiger Woods was only the latest in the list of celeb sexaholics that include Charlie Sheen, Jesse James, David Duchovny, Paris Hilton, Billy Bob Thornton et al. Interestingly, Billy Bob Thornton actually ended up sleeping with his sex therapist. So there.
Given the ubiquitous lethal mix of fame, money and sex (Tiger confessed: “I thought I was entitled”), one wonders if this intense drive to have sex indeed amounts to something similar to Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), or is it a façade for cheating? On the comparison to OCD, Dr Satya Prakash, Psychiatrist and Director, Mindcare Clinic, says, “OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) is a personality disorder whilst the so-called sexual ‘addictions’ or ‘compulsions’ are not. There isn't enough evidence to even refer to them as actual clinical entities. While obsessive-compulsive mechanisms may be relevant in some cases, certain states of depression or anxiety, or dissociative experiences can also be the cause. Overall, scientific studies indicate that out-of-control sexual behavior results from a variety of mechanisms.” One of such out-of-control case was experienced by Ayesha (name changed) who recalls, “Sid once hit his own head against the bed in anger, when I refused to have sex with him. But once he got more violent, I was too scared and didn’t feel like tormenting him further, so I had to give in. On another occasion, he slapped me, when I told him that making out in the car was not a good idea, but again he got his way and we were almost caught by the cops. His regular visits abroad (every month) and his urge to have sex or masturbate four to five times a day was not only driving me crazy, but his parents too. They were aware of the problem and he was taken for various therapy sessions to many psychiatrists. The irony is that he knows he’s wrong sometimes, but his urge is so strong that it completely clouds his decision making ability.”
In the case of public figures, sleeping with multiple partners
turns into cause célèbre for sex addiction, but in ordinary lives, sans the limelight, carnal obsession is tough to explain, especially to one’s significant other. “I had a couple for a client once who were married for 10 long years; a love marriage on that. The wife then got to know that her husband made pornographic films and uploaded their own sex clips on the Internet. In another instance there was this man with a fetish for props like vegetables and other stuff for the act,” says Nisha Khanna, Relationship Expert, at UTV Bindass in Emotional Atyachaar 2. So, is there need for rehabs for sex addicts in India, like there are in the West? Dr Satya Prakash says, “No. It is not an absolute requirement. A good counselor can help unlearn these behaviours along with some support from a close member such as a spouse or friend.” Nisha Khanna also agrees, “We try and counsel our clients and refocus their energy they have, rather than the one thing they miss the most.”That men and women have different outlook on sex is now a hackneyed truth. Women do enjoy sex (even Stephen Fry knows that!), but more often than not, one woman’s means to emotional consummation is another man’s physiological prescription. Fear of social ignominy, and moral delusions may cause many to give indulgence a pathological veneer, but to those who find their routine disrupted by unbridled impulses, help is not far, with understanding friends, resourceful parents and experienced counselors. You might want to take that first step.
Visit below mentioned IIPM articles.
Arindam Chaudhuri on his third National Award and his unique business formula for films
Arindam Chaudhuri: We need Hazare's leadership
IIPM: Indian Institute of Planning and Management
Professor Arindam Chaudhuri - A Man For The Society....
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